My contact form scares off people. It’s supposed to. So this was asked of me at GeekGirlCon:
Your card doesn’t have your email. Why do you make it so hard to contact you?
It’s not that I don’t want to have people ask me for more information about my site, or a class I gave. I love that. I’m happy to answer those. I tell people ‘Go to halfelf.org and use the contact form.’ Sometimes I’ll reply personally, sometimes I post on the blog, sometimes both. But yes, if we’ve met in person and you have a question, it’s okay to ping me.
But I hide my contact form behind a couple ‘are you sure?’ layers because people are weird and unreasonable.
People contact me for the one thing I don’t offer, and that’s consultant work.
People want to get free help on very complex problems.
People want to be friends.
Okay that last one is nice, but if I meet you once, we’re going to be acquaintances unless we hit it off like gangbusters… And at that point, I probably gave you my email and phone number and said “When you come to X, we have to do coffee!” It happens!
But if you’re trying to ask a long question about how to write code to do a very complex thing, consider this. Would you otherwise pay someone to do it? Would you, if you were asked by someone, ask for payment? If yes, don’t just drop me a ‘hey can you help?’ Don’t drop anyone that question. Shoot them a polite message, asking if they can help you with a project. Offer to pay. And ask if they’re busy, can they please direct you somewhere?
And do check out [https://halfelf.org/get/help] – Because yes, I keep a list.