I get a lot of emails. I’m usually receiving and sending every hour or so. Most of the time they’re email alerts, sometimes conversations. While I’m a massive unsubsciber of email lists, I filter a lot of my emails into folders, where I’ll leave them unread until I have time, and then I delete them. Oh yes, I’m a member of Inbox Zero.
I started doing the Zero because I wanted to cut down on the stress in my digital life. An unread notification sits there, like a malignant ‘Deal with me!’ eye. And the thing is I do, I will, I always at least read the email. I don’t always reply, but I will read it. But what I don’t need is a five year old kicking my seat asking if we’re there yet.
I’m not patient. I eat my bagels undercooked because if the dang thing isn’t done in the time it takes me to start the toaster, get my cream cheese, make a coffee, and go to the bathroom, then it’s getting eaten as is. I would never be a good chef because I don’t care if every slice and dice is the same, I care about eating. If it’s time to go and you’re dawdling, I hate you. I get annoyed when people can’t budget their time well and thus are always late. It’s a thing, it’s mine, and it’s what it is.
Conversely, when it’s not food, or when its not a specific time event (like “I’ll meet you there between 4 and 5”) then I don’t stress about it. And when it’s email or Twitter, I’m seemingly negligent about serious replies because I may take a long time, and reply to other people frivilously, but in reality I’m thinking about the right reply. I have a couple emails in my drafts at any one point in time because I’m thinking.
It’s funny, I know, that I get upset when people nag me about replying. But I understand that people need processing time, and while I’m terribly impatient when I wait for an email reply from someone (seriously, ask my wife, I’m really annoying), I try as hard as I can NOT to bother them about it! I may send them a little “Hi” note after a week or so, depending on the issue, but I’m usually asking someone for a special favor in the first place, and I try to respect their boundaries.
Whew. Lots of me me me here!
Also I like using desktop applications. I like email apps, and Twitter apps, over in their own thing that I can totally close out and ignore if I need to write or whatever. I’m not tempted to open twitter.com in my browser because I never do it. It’s good for me and my sanity, because I don’t get those ‘gotta clicks.’ The only ones I have in my browser are my RSS reader, Facebook, and Google Plus, none of which annoy me with alerts in my browser (well, not once I forcibly turned off all alerts).
But email and Twitter, being a desktop tool on my Mac, need some settings changes too. Twitter has two places:
On the first settings page, General, I set my menu bar icon to disabled, so nothing to pester me up there. On the Notifications page, I turn of nearly everything. The exceptions are mentions (which I keep as menu, just in case I change my mind… it’s been a month, I suspect not) and messages. Messages are important. Very few people DM me on Twitter, and when they do, it’s probably important or private, so it needs serious attention.
Nothing else does.
Email is weirder. How do you turn off the dock? Surprisingly easy. Go into your System Preferences and click on Notifications (first row, last column). In there, I always turn on “Do Not Disturb” settings from 9pm to 7am. If I’m up and coding at that hour, I’m in a zone and leave me alone. Otherwise I’ve left the laptop open, and either way I’m probably not in a mood to talk to people. The last thing I want is more alerts.
Next scroll down to your email app (mine is Postbox) and turn off everything. Uncheck the boxes and set the style to ‘None’ and walk away:
Boom. No more red number.
Don’t worry, I’m still checking mail.
